So tonight we got back out the book Someone Came Before You. It's actually been awhile since I read it to her. More often this past year it's been books about the big sister/little brother coming after her. So this book is about how there are two parents who love each other very much, and they decide to have a baby, and they are very happy, but then the baby dies, and they are very sad, until they have another baby: that's you!!
I was choking up as I was reading the page about how the baby dies. Glory could tell. She was holding her favorite stuffed puppy, and she started saying that his tail was ripping. She started to cry and wouldn't stop talking about this tail. I have never seen such a defense mechanism in such a young child. I finally just said "Glory it's ok, his tail is fine, but is the book making you sad?" And she said yes and started to cry more. The picture of the Mommy and the Daddy hugging and crying made her very sad. I told her it was ok to be sad, that Mommy and Daddy were very sad too, but to let me finish the book. It shows how the Mommy and Daddy are still sad, and they have tears, but their hearts grow and they have another baby. It shows the Mommy with the baby in her belly again and there is an angel baby on her shoulder. I showed her how the Mommy had a picture of the baby on the table, just like we have a picture of Kathlyn on the wall. I pointed to the angel in the book and I said "who's that?" and she said with a smile "Kathlyn!" And as the Mommy and Daddy have their new baby, she understands that that was her! And we said how we needed to draw a new baby Alex into the book too! It was such a sweet family moment as we all read the book together cuddled in each other's arms in our bed.